Tips to support self care this holiday season ❤️
1. The holiday season can mean that we may be around more individuals that can bring out all different emotions within us.
Supporting ourselves before our gatherings with practicing possible internal conversations with the individuals we may be concerned of having conversation with as well as preparing how we can best support the conversation in the way healthiest for you too.
Also, preparing a list of our main self care tools we enjoy most that we can come back to use during gatherings in any moment.
The more prepared and resourced we are, the less reactive and impacted we will be by our external environment and all within it
2. Reminding yourself if any conversation becomes over activating, you can instantly guide more calm back to yourself by bringing awareness of slowing your breath into your belly and bringing awareness to feeling your feet connected with the space around you / the ground, etc.
3. Take and create moments of silence and solitude for yourself and remember - this is not selfish to do so no matter if anyone says anything about it. The holidays especially can bring out pressure to be on the go, please others as well as continually socialize.
For most of us, this can lead to serious burn out if we do not include breaks and care for ourselves
Holiday burnout can lead us to
-breaking down into an emotion
-undesired over drinking or over eating
-more aggressive arguments or conversations vs grounded conversation
-inability to relate with another as we ourselves are too burnt out and nervous system needing its own support
-feeling anxiety and tightness in the chest
-snapping in anger during a conversation and more
4. Whatever you feel, you are allowed to feel it. No matter if anyone says anything. No matter if someone expects you to shift your feelings or emotions. You are allowed to feel whatever is moving through you this holiday season.
Staying grounded in YOU - this is the greatest gifts we can give ourselves this holiday season
5. Spending even 5 minutes for connecting with your body in slow deep breathing with a set intention before your gatherings and during them
Find an intention that you would like to bring into your gathering, holiday conversations or holiday season all together
Breathing with this intention and entering with an intention allows all to flow with that much more ease and subconscious direction.
The more we care for ourselves this holiday season, the better we can fully enjoy all that entails while also honoring ourselves vs neglecting ourselves ❤️
How else are you caring for yourself this holiday season?
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Tips for when life feels overwhelming ❤️
1. Setting alarms for yourself throughout the day for a few moments just for YOU
-to slow down and breathe
-to move your body
-to do something to bring a smile or calm
-to intentionally release emotion or express
-to connect with someone
-to reset or regroup for needed changes for the rest of the day
Setting alarms allows us to aid in structure and breaks for ourselves which are much needed when life becomes overwhelming and time can feel it blends
Try starting with just 1 alarm and then add as you go with new ideas of what you feel you could use or need throughout the days 🤍
2. Find a space to fully move energy from within
This looks different for all of us but finding spaces and ways to fully drop into moving what’s felt from within
Maybe channeling the overwhelm and releasing the energy with lifting at the gym?
Maybe channeling it through painting or dancing or running or creating?
Whatever way in which you can use MOVEMENT of your body parts - this allows release so energy does not just build and bubble over leading in snapping, emotional breakdown, etc
3. Write out your days to help in process
If we lead life from the mind - all can feel that much more overwhelming for us
The mind can only hold so much so when life is showing up with more overwhelm, the more we can place on paper or safely outward - the better
Sorting our thoughts, needs and plans on paper.
Planning the day and needs ahead.
Writing lists for ourselves.
All of this helps bring the overwhelm from the mind - to process better through the placing of it outward
4. Find a word or mantra to use and come back to
There are endless studies that show the power repeating mantras and words has for calming the nervous system and body
Finding a word or something to come back to in Moments you feel overwhelmed
You also can add in a physical grounding piece to use while saying the mantra like a stone, crystal or meaningful item to you
5. Find a song that brings instant joy to you - play it often 🤍
Whenever we feel overwhelmed - may we know a song, instrument or voice is waiting to guide us back into calm. Belt out / sing that song for extra health benefits 🤍
More tips to come
This holiday season, I hope you see the gift that is - you
I hope you remember that your boundaries aren’t selfish
That your needs, limits and words matter too
That whatever you are feeling this season is neither right or wrong or good or bad - but yours
I hope that there is someone this holiday season who sees you and allows you to be and honor - you
You deserve nothing less this holiday
Wherever you are in your journey right now, I hope you know - you are doing a great job. You are more than enough.
That you are beautiful and worthy - just as you.
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Sage is a cleanser
Allow yourself to be cleansed as you connect into my eyes and the smoke breathes before you
Stagnancy in our HIPS, BACK, PELVIS, SPINE
Our fuel energy / life / sexual energy is built up through our spine and our HIPS ❤️
How for all of us there often can be numbness, stiffness, stagnancy and energy locked in our back, hips and pelvis due to how often we are stiff, still, sitting and within the way we live our lifestyles.
✨When we move and connect with our hips, we open up to more energy to flow through us✨
Stretching the hips open.
Dancing with the hips and spine in focus.
Whatever way feels best to slowly open your hips, pelvis, back and spine.
The hips and pelvis are also spaces where emotions are suppressed in and so when we start connecting and moving our hips - we begin to feel even more overall.
✨If we are feeling tired or just when we want to ignite energy and more life into our body, connecting with our hips
✨When we want to create deeper turn on in our body and selves- intentional breathing, connecting and moving of the hips
Check in with your hips and spine throughout the day as well ❤️
How are they feeling?
How are they carrying themselves?
Do they feel stiff and tight or flexible and open?
Bring some movement into each of them throughout the day ❤️
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On the 6th day of Christmas, my Harper gave to me :
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I love watching women squirt
Seeing 2 women squirting together leaves me dripping 🤍
I can cum easily from just watching this even without any touch 😉
I could watch a woman squirting in her pleasure all day 🤍
A dream of mine is to day be surrounded and covered in squirt 😘
I desire to find other women I am attracted to to pleasure and film us together to share it back here one day 😉
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Why move the body before trying to wind down ❤️
Have you ever found yourself going to settle in either for sleep, a nap or something as meditation or slow breathing and your mind or body just - won’t slow down
Your body feels unable to sit still and you catch yourself moving or tossing about
Before we try to bring more calm into our bodies and space, we often need to release what energy has been stored there in the body
A few ways to warm up the body before moving into relaxation✨
-shaking the limbs and body open ( sitting or standing )
-combining breathing with tapping or massage
-jumping up and down
-tapping the body
-slow jogging
-dancing
-stretching and more
The next time you desire to wind down some - allow yourself to try some intentional shaking or one or more of these practices and notice how you feel afterward if any different
5 foods to eat with natural digestive enzymes ❤️
What are digestive enzymes?
Digestive enzymes are what help best break down our food and acidity to be processed through the stomach and intestines.
They aid in support of the liver, spleen and other intestines as they support proper breakdown and balance of our acids, nutrients and more.
You can take supplemental digestive enzymes to support better digestion as well as eat foods that naturally have them in them to promote them as well ❤️
1. Pineapple
2. Mango
3. Avocado
4. Ginger
5. Bananas and many more foods!
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How we breathe carries over into how we feel, how we act, how we think, how we process and more
Whenever we start to feel overwhelmed, anxious or stressed : let us check in with our breathing
Where is our breath?
How does it feel?
Come back to the belly 🤍
Today is part 1 of my guided breathwork series I will be sharing here
Deep Belly breathing has endless benefits to the mind, body and spirit
It calms the nervous system
It helps increase circulation
It assists lymphatic drainage
It aids the body back to center
It primes and aids digestion
It prepares the body for sleep and more
How do you feel after you deep belly breathe for a while? 🤍
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Using our sound and vocalizing our pleasure have the power to ignite and bring even more life to our sexual energy through our body
Sound is a channel
Moaning is a way to open our body and move with this energy
Moan with me ❤️
How do you feel afterward?
How do you know when she’s ready for you? 💭
What signs do you usually look for to know?
Today’s chat : Why check in and how to check in with a woman before you enter her ❤️
Women crave a man’s grounded presence and safety in his touch.
To know she can surrender the way she desires into her wild.
Checking in together before sex or before entering your partner in any way can be the greatest gift back to your connection.
Checking in verbally together and also - physically.
Learning one another’s bodies.
Learning her body and her unique opening.
A woman’s body or she herself may look as if she is opening to you ( moaning, wild, pussy may even be wet ) but she still may physically not be ready to be entered.
When she is grounded back in her body, she can actually receive you. You can receive each other.
The depth of pleasure will IGNITE.
✨Asking her verbally and then checking in with her eyes are the two best ways to check in to ensure she is ready for your entering and opening✨
Our eyes share our presence in our body.
Cupping her face into your hands for a moment if comfortable or just take a moment before her with her.
Gazing into her eyes.
Breathing.
What do you see?
Are her eyes there with you?
What is their pace? The emotion in them?
Are they still, felt and present?
Breathe with her for a moment as you ground back together.
She will slowly start to come back into her body if you feel she is not connected.
If you feel she is not present with you or you do not feel present yourself before being touched or touching - spend a few moments in slow breathing together
This can help aid the body back to presence.
✨When you enter her when she is ready - her body THANKS YOU. More as if to be opening as a flower.
She softens. You will feel her pussy soften into you.
Her juices flow to you naturally vs you needing to touch or do anything a certain way to open them to you
When you enter her when she is ready, her body will thank you - over and over again ❤️
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I felt your lips fall against my skin
Watching your fingertips crawl up my legs as your lips matched your touch
You knew every place on my body, opening me like my favorite flower
I could watch you forever
An honest reflection from my heart to yours ❤️
How do we hold ourselves when life feels or becomes overwhelming or too much? 💭
Do we talk down to ourselves?
Do we over work?
Do we guilt or shame ourselves to do even more?
Do we disconnect?
I have been in deep reflection on this question as a whole and observing my own connection into it all.
This last week an example - I have been back in some fibromyalgia flare ups and health flares and in this I noticed all starting to feel- too much.
I observed I started to isolate.
I started to disconnect.
I started shaming myself for not being able to show up in the way I wanted with you all and in life and planned .
I began to beg my body to stop over and over and it only got louder.
Then, it really hit me.
Shaming, talking down to myself and hiding away from all wasn’t supporting my healing.
Pushing myself to show up during this time was not supporting me any closer to healing either. Only intensifying.
Can you think of a time in your life when you pushed and the situation only got louder?
How can we gift ourselves more grace?
Giving myself grace today 🤍
Slowly re-emerging back.
Thank you all for your patience with me here
I have some exciting things to come for the rest of December with you 😘
It’s November 30th and in that - I have been reflecting 💙
How often do we take the time to really congratulate ourselves?
To look back at all that was and felt good this past month for outselves?
To look at the growth we had within ourselves and in life
What areas called you deeper this month?
The moments
The openings
The new
The accomplishments
The reflection and learning.
What are 3 things you are proud of yourself for within November? 💭
Ejaculation, Slowing Down and Testosterone ❤️
Did you know
Rushing to ejaculate can actually aid in a dip in levels of testosterone?
✨The longer you spend building up cum and your ejaculation, the more testosterone and dopamine build up as well
✨With this - the longer you spend building up, the more manageable it will be for the body of the re-balancing to baseline of the testosterone levels and dopamine levels when you do ejaculate
This meaning - less major dips for both levels as well as less symptoms within post ejaculation
*Quick dips in testosterone and dopamine can impact in feeling more mood swings, more tired, more stressed, depressed as well as much more
Slowing down with your pleasure and your cock
The endless benefits of taking our time ❤️
What Is your body saying to you lately?
Our body even more than the mind, knows the way
It speaks to us in little messages throughout our day.
Taking a moment for this reflection with your body
✨What areas have been calling your attention?
✨When you slow down with the awareness of the areas, what do you feel they are trying to tell you or show you?
Take a moment to imagine your breath being directed into the areas calling you.
Allowing space for whatever arises.
Our body is a messenger
These little check ins throughout the day with it all support us in being able to feel our best, work our best, live our best 🤍✨
I can taste the wild that breathes through your veins
Your eyes lock mine and I’m taken away
One with your touch
One with your fire
Every taste
I crave, more
What can impact testosterone levels? ❤️ PT 1
1. Stress levels : How is the stress currently in your life? Do you have spaces or practices to work through and help lighten this stress?
2. Our Sleep Patterns : How many hours of sleep are you getting each night? Do you feel you sleep deeply? Do you feel tired throughout the day still even after a night’s rest? Ensuring quality and enough sleep can provide deeper support to T levels.
3. Our Detox Pathways : For T levels to raise or regulate within the body, we must look at our detox pathways. We can detox through sweat, our liver, urine, bowels and bl00d. Are we sweating? Are we eating detoxing fruits and vegetables? Are we supporting these pathways for clearing?
Magnesium 💙
✨Magnesium is a powerhouse that assists and supports the body, mind and nervous system into feeling CALM ✨
It also is connected to :
-the depth of our sleep
-our metabolism and digestion
-strength of our nerve firing and functioning
-the strength of our bones
-how our muscles contract
-heart health
-immune function and more!
Are we aware of how much magnesium intake we are getting each day?
Magnesium can be eaten and found in foods like :
- AVOCADOS
- LEGUMES
- BANANAS
- NUTS + SEEDS
- FISH
- LEAFY GREENS
- WHOLE GRAINS
Magnesium can also be applied onto the skin within a lotion or through magnesium flakes with a soak in the bath
Magnesium Bicarbonate can be consumed within carbonated water as well as there are other forms to use :)
Breathing For Morning Sexual Energy Awareness
Practice With Me
✨Our INHALES : gently as if we were sipping liquid slowly from a straw. Feel the light air as it is being guided into your lips and down through your body.
Feeling the breath guided down into your cock
Finding awareness of and then lifting the bladder muscles as we slowly inhale.
✨Our EXHALES : releasing every muscle and hold from the body and releasing the breath through the mouth with a full, exhaled moan.
Repeat 20x times
How do you feel?
